The early birds

{ Something like this, I like }

So one of the girls in my choir just announced she got engaged with her long-term boyfriends. First of all, congratulations to her and her new fiancee! I feel like the closer to the end of college (though I still have one year left), more and more people seem to get engaged these days. I'm talking about college students around age 20-22. So I call them the 'early birds'. Research found that the average age of getting married in US is around 25-28, so the Early Birds is a legitimate term for me, at least.

Girls talk about relationships, future, etc a lot. What I realized is that most of these girls a) wants to get married sooner or later with the boyfriend, b) have a wonderful married life, and c) wants to create happy family. Very traditional ideas, I think. Not going to lie, I do value all those. I eventually want to settle down with the man I would like to spend the rest of my life and have a happy family (like my family! ^^). But I sense during these conversations is that usually it's the girl who expects the 'next step' more than the guys. I mean, obviously the guy proposes because he agrees (hopefully), but that really seems to be the case.


For me, I'm way too realistic for myself to accept such thing. Marriage is surely a wonderful thing, but only when things are secured like career, financial stability, maturity, and etc. Ok, I admit I think way too much in a sense it annoys people.

So, I have a question. Why is that about 50% of first-time married couples end up divorcing? Does that mean half of the couples I know will end up in that situation? I surely hope not, personally. I think what we need to realize is that love is 50% and commitment is 50% to a successful marriage. We all get married because we love the person. But we got to also realize that marriage isn't just a 'fun' thing to do. It's a serious issue, look out in a long-term.

Anyway, it is nice to see the couples all excited and happy about their future together. I hope one day, I will get that opportunity. If not...well, not much I can do about it.

This is just some random thought I had before going to bed.